Text Message Etiquette In Family Law Cases And What We Can Learn From Abraham Lincoln

It is an excellent means of instantaneously relaying information to the other side. It is an invaluable resource when emergency situations arise. It documents communications.

While most people realize that their texts can be used as evidence in court and so should refrain from using crude language, what they often fail to realize is that the wording and/or the tone of their texts can be equally offensive or otherwise inappropriate and can be used against them. A text that is bullying, insulting, snide or demeaning, even though it avoids profanity, will make a good exhibit − for the other side. Name-calling (even of the non-profane variety) and judgmental opinions should also be avoided. Texting should be limited to relaying information in as neutral and civil a manner as one can muster.

Texts are really no different from emails and emails are no different from letters. Technology and the speed of communication that it permits do not excuse lack of reflection and judgment.

In Team of Rivals, Doris Kearns Goodwin relates how Abraham Lincoln would write angry letters to his cabinet members and his generals, but typically would put the letter in his desk drawer. He would take it out a day or two later and decide whether to send it. He usually did not. While a day’s reflection may be unrealistic in today’s faster paced world, the point is the same: Think before you press “send.”

Online Reference:
Doris Kearns Goodwin Website
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